Monday, February 21, 2011

Remember, Every Day Will Count

Yesterday was the 1 year anniversary of the loss of my sister. Following is a re-post of my tribute to her. The words still hold true. Please call your sister or brother, your mother or father, your aunt or uncle, your friend or your child and tell them how much you love them. Don't let the opportunity slip through your fingers.

Thank you all so very much for your heartfelt thoughts, prayers, and words of condolence over the past week. The loss of my dear sister has been devastating to me and my entire family. Your words meant a lot.

My sister Barbara was 5 years younger than me, which disproves the theory "Older is wiser", as she taught me many life lessons through the years. Barbara taught me how important it is to define your dreams and then go and get them for yourself. She taught me that it was OK to pursue being happy with my life. She taught me to take care of myself first, so I could be the best mom possible for my children. She taught me what it means to be a friend through her ability to listen and care. She taught me what it means to be a sister through her love for me, Pam, Becky and Brenda. She taught me what it means to be a daughter through her abiding love and respect for our parents. She taught me what it means to be a mother through her willingness to do anything for her children. She taught me what it means to be an aunt through her caring for all her nieces and nephews.

Barbara's passing has left a rift in my family that will never be filled. I wish that I had spoken with her in the week before she died and told her how much I loved her. As it is, I must believe that she knows it somehow.

Please reach out to someone in your family today and tell them that you love them. You never know if it will be your last chance.

During the past week, I found the following passage written by Barbara in her journal. It was written sometime in 2000, the year she turned 39. It was read at her memorial service on Thursday, and I want to share it with you here.

"What can I say, but be true to you and you will never disappoint yourself.
Try to treat your children as you would see your perfect self behave.
Don't sell yourself short. Amazing things can happen - even at 39.
If you were to know that you would have your last year on earth - how would you live your life?
Don't settle.
Know that every day will count.
Go surf, ride the bike with the kids, plant a tree, put a fence in, put a hot tub in.
Try to make a difference for your children."

Rest in peace now, my beautiful sister. I love you.

9 comments:

FairyFiligree said...

I would have loved to have had a sister. May yours rest in peace and may you find solace in your happy memories of your time together,

K.Line said...

I remember this beautiful tribute. Thinking of you and your family...xo

Sheila said...

Aw, hugs to you, hon. I know you think about her a lot.

Last week was my dad's birthday. Usually I mention it on my blog, but this year I thought, "no." It's been nearly 14 years since we lost him and although we still miss him, his birthday is not as painful as it used to be.

I hope your pain will ease and be replaced by all the good times you had.

Hug,
Sheila

Couture Allure Vintage Fashion said...

Thank you both. I am at peace today, but it's been a tough year.

Louise said...

So sorry for your loss- I have a sister and I adore her, so I can imagine your pain.
I recently lost my mother, and you are so right about taking every opportunity to let your loved ones know how much they mean to you.

Couture Allure Vintage Fashion said...

Thank you all for your thoughts. And I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your mother Louise.

thevintagetraveler said...

Jody, what a beautiful tribute.

Sarsaparilla said...

Oh, I'm so sorry that you lost your dear sister last year. I have a sense of what you've gone through because I lost my own sister (49) three years ago. She was a year older than me - we were close...

What a beautiful tribute to her...

Couture Allure Vintage Fashion said...

I'm sorry to hear of your loss too, Sarsaparilla.

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