Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Remember, Every Day Will Count

Yesterday was the 2nd anniversary of the loss of my sister. Following is my annual re-post of my tribute to her. The words still hold true. Please call your sister or brother, your mother or father, your aunt or uncle, your friend or your child and tell them how much you love them. Don't let the opportunity slip through your fingers.

Originally published February 28, 2010:

Thank you all so very much for your heartfelt thoughts, prayers, and words of condolence over the past week. The loss of my dear sister has been devastating to me and my entire family. Your words meant a lot.

My sister Barbara was 5 years younger than me, which disproves the theory "Older is wiser", as she taught me many life lessons through the years. Barbara taught me how important it is to define your dreams and then go and get them for yourself. She taught me that it was OK to pursue being happy with my life. She taught me to take care of myself first, so I could be the best mom possible for my children. She taught me what it means to be a friend through her ability to listen and care. She taught me what it means to be a sister through her love for me, Pam, Becky and Brenda. She taught me what it means to be a daughter through her abiding love and respect for our parents. She taught me what it means to be a mother through her willingness to do anything for her children. She taught me what it means to be an aunt through her caring for all her nieces and nephews.

Barbara's passing has left a rift in my family that will never be filled. I wish that I had spoken with her in the week before she died and told her how much I loved her. As it is, I must believe that she knows it somehow.

Please reach out to someone in your family today and tell them that you love them. You never know if it will be your last chance.

During the past week, I found the following passage written by Barbara in her journal. It was written sometime in 2000, the year she turned 39. It was read at her memorial service on Thursday, and I want to share it with you here.

"What can I say, but be true to you and you will never disappoint yourself.
Try to treat your children as you would see your perfect self behave.
Don't sell yourself short. Amazing things can happen - even at 39.
If you were to know that you would have your last year on earth - how would you live your life?
Don't settle.
Know that every day will count.
Go surf, ride the bike with the kids, plant a tree, put a fence in, put a hot tub in.
Try to make a difference for your children."

Rest in peace now, my beautiful sister. I love you.


Andi said...

Such a touching story; I'm going to heed your advice and tell all my friends and family how much then mean to me today. Thanks for posting this. My heartfelt hugs go out to you.

Joyness Sparkles said...

I completely understand as my mother passed away four years ago this last November. This is a beautiful post, thank you for sharing. :)

FairyFiligree said...

I vividly remember your post last year too. Thanks for sharing her memory, her words. Don't hurt yourself with 'what ifs' and 'whys' - you could laugh together, you had a good relationship = relationships are not measured by last-minute goodbyes only but by a lifelong deal that worked well. I'm sure she would like you to be happy in her memory....

Lisa said...

Thank you for sharing this beautiful story. I lost my mom 7 years ago and I completely understand that loss you feel that will never be filled. I'm sending caring and soul healing thoughts your way

Patty said...

What a lovely tribute to your sister. You must miss her terribly. I told my sister today that I loved her. She just lost her boyfriend to a heart attack. My husband and I tell each other every day that we love each other.

corinne said...

I just discovered your blog and this tribute to your sister is lovey!

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