Thursday, July 30, 2009

How to Enter and Leave a Room Like a Lady - 1968

This week, we've been looking at how to move like a lady, from a 1968 book. Are you finding these moves awkward? Are you thinking about how you move, and how it looks to others? Are you finding, as I am, that these moves require strong core muscles?

The impression you make as you enter or leave a room can be your greatest asset. Here are some tips for making a good entrance and a graceful departure from a room.

When entering a room:
1. Avoid bursting into a room. Hesitate for a moment in the doorway, compose yourself, and glance quickly around to note names, faces, and the environment. Before you step into the room, you should know where you are going and to whom you will be speaking.
2. Smile.
3. If there is a door, grasp the knob with your hand. If the door opens into the room to the right, use your right hand, and vice versa. Keep your arm straight and open the door as you walk forward. Step sideways and reach behind you with the opposite hand to grab the inner door knob. Step backwards to close the door without turning your back on the room.

When leaving a room:
1. Leave a good impression. Smile.
2. Back out slowly, facing the people in the room. (OK, this is the first rule I have to disagree with. Maybe it's rude to turn my back, but walking backwards out of a room is just weird.)
3. If there is a door, walk up with your back to the door, reach behind and grasp the knob. Straighten your arm and walk forward opening the door behind you. Step to the side, grasp the outer knob and back out of the room, pulling the door closed. You are literally closing the door in your face. (Again, weird.)

When bending to pick up objects, keep your back straight and bend from the knees. Keep your head up. This is not only graceful, it protects your back from injury.

Tomorrow....how to handle accessories.

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9 comments:

Fleur de Guerre said...

Hello! Is it a site beginning with P and ending inupLifeStyle? ;)

Because I was coming to tell you that they are using your posts, but luckily you watermark all your pictures so it was a little more obvious than with mine. >:(

Deja Pseu said...

I remember some of these lessons from my mother (and yes, she used to make us walk up and down the hallway with books on our heads). She wanted so much for us to be refined ladies, and how we disappointed her! ;-) I love Simon Doonan's "how to enter a room" from his Glamourous Eccentrics book.

Regarding getting in and out of cars, the high profile vans and SUV's so many people drive today really throw a wrench into graceful entry.

Sal said...

Awww, but I LOVE bursting into rooms!

The Glamorous Housewife said...

When I was around 13 my mom sent me to cotillian lessons where we learned how to sit properly, dance, which fork to use at dinner, etc. It was so fun and taught me all the correct ettiquette. I will be sure to send my sons when they get old enough.

As an aside, when I was in college, I went on date with a boy who didn't know how to order a bottle of wine properly. They gave him the cork to smell, which he didn't understand, and then when they poured a small sip for him to taste, he said, 'fill'er up'! Obviously we only went on that one date. Manners matter.

Thanks doll,
The Glamorous Housewife

Some Like it Vintage said...

Yes, I remember female family members all talking about their etiquette lessons. It was almost a requirement for a young girl in the 50s & 60s. Something I wish would return a little bit. Etiquette accompanies manners - which can be lacking today. Great post!

Forgetmenot said...

these how tos are great! very useful, you should keep posting things like these...

Couture Allure Vintage Fashion said...

I just found the entire series of these little books, so I'll hopefully have more great tips for you in the future. I'm glad you're enjoying these posts!

Jean said...

I'm loving these hints! Certainly we 80's girls never learned them. But I think all of us still bend at the knees to pick things up--who wants to show their butt to the world in that awful 'wrong' way?

Erica's Fashion Daily said...

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